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How to Learn a New Skill in 5 Easy Steps – and Keep Your Life, Too

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How to Learn a New Skill – all it takes is a small commitment every day

How to learn a new skill: believe it or not, it doesn’t take a tremendous amount of time every day to learn something new. In reality, all it takes to learn a new skill is a small commitment, every day to develop a new talent or start a new hobby.

What is one thing you want to do but you haven’t started doing it, yet? Maybe it’s because you don’t feel like you have time or it feels too complicated or any other excuse you give yourself.

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Learning a new skill or practice won’t happen immediately. My kids always say, “I’m not good at that.” My response is either “neither was I until I practiced a lot” or another one of my favorite responses: “well, you’ll have to practice to improve.” Learning a new skill is like riding a bike or learning to swim.

Buying a new bike doesn’t guarantee you’ll keep your balance; it requires practice, practice, practice. It requires skill development and sometimes some scraped knees. But it always requires you get back up and keep going.

Examples of Skills I Want to Learn or Habits to I Want to Develop

  • Learn to create a variety of lettering formats
  • Journal Everyday
  • Write
  • Illustrate books
  • Paint Murals
  • Watercolor Paint
  • Paint realistic art
  • Draw from memory
  • Draw Faces
  • Sell my art
  • Blog full time
  • Keep my house clean
  • Learn something new
  • Watercolor plants
  • Create quotes in awesome layouts
  • Paint florals
  • Photography
  • Write Comics
  • Sing

When I was learning to brush letter, I committed at least 15 minutes per day to the activity. Investing just 15 minutes per day removes a lot of excuses. It feels more like a bite-sized piece every day than eating the whole elephant at once.

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Make Your Own List

Go ahead and get your notebook out or a scrap of paper then brainstorm a list of things that you want to learn. Don’t edit your list right now; write down all the things you want to do. Don’t worry about how long your list is, keep writing until you feel like you’ve listed everything.

Once you’ve listed all the ambitions in your life, choose one (maximum two) items from your list to practice every day for a short amount of time.

Decide which one will capture your focus. You can’t learn everything all at one time. For one thing, the time commitment is certainly not feasible. For another thing, you’re probably overwhelmed by your list already.

Choose One Thing

The above list of skills I want to learn/habits to develop to do isn’t comprehensive by any means, but even that shortlist is overwhelming when it comes to doing them all at once.

Trying to learn everything at once quickly becomes overwhelming. The key to learning a new skill is to focus on one thing at a time. I used to be an advocate for multitasking, but I have learned over time that splitting my efforts is certainly not as effective as focusing on one thing at a time.

I’m not saying to neglect everything else in your life, in fact, contrary to that. Choose one as a focus. I’m not going to neglect cleaning my house while I learn a new skill other than cleaning, but the books I read, the research I do, my general focus will be on creating a different skill instead.

If You Can’t Decide Which One

If you can’t decide, try this: choose the first thing on your list. Think about spending the next 3 months, devoting your time every day to learning that skill. How does that one make you feel? Were you excited or secretly disappointed that it wasn’t another item on your list? If you were disappointed, choose the thing that you thought about doing instead, that’s probably the one you really want to try.

Muscle Memory

You’re creating ‘muscle memory.’ It’s like going to the gym for your brain and hands. Working out a little every day is better than working out in one long session on Saturdays. It creates a more established habit and doesn’t take an entire day to catch up.

If you give yourself just 15 minutes per day, you’ll be amazed at how much you improve at this new skill. A short amount of time every day is better than a big chunk of time – especially when you have to train your hands or mind to do something different like lettering or drawing.

You’ll make better progress if you do a little every day. And you’re not asking yourself to eat huge chunks, which is easier to swallow.

Now Commit to Learning Your New Skill

Just like my cleaning/decluttering regimen, set a specific time for when you intend to do your practice every day.

How to Commit:

Now that you’ve decided which skill you will practice, there are a few things that will help you to commit it to memory. They are simple things, but very useful.

  1. Set a time
  2. Write it down
  3. Block it out on your calendar
  4. Show up & Practice
  5. Every. Single. Day

Set your intentions for real then commit to yourself or tell someone else if you need accountability. Tell them what you are going to do and when you are going to do it.

Comment below, which is the one thing you are going to do & when you are going to do it every day.

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My Commitment

For me, I am going to write for my blog for 15 minutes every day at 8:30 am before I go to work. If I need to, I will put in headphones to drown out the extra noise and reduce distractions. My work doesn’t have to be perfect, and I need to show up and do it. Every. Single. Day.

Where can you learn more about creating a habitual creative practice?

I love SkillShare – an online learning environment with hundreds of courses you can take to learn new techniques and enhance your skills. Sign up for a free trial, take some classes and see what else you learn.

365 Day Project
You Can Draw Anything!
Stick to it: How to Maintain a Creative Practice

If you already use skillshare – are there any classes you’ve enjoyed? I’d like to know.

Want to start handlettering? Check out my post for beginning lettering supplies.

Battle With Stuff #2: How to Create Decluttering Habits

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How to Create Decluttering Habits

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Hey! Welcome back! Here is post #2 in my Battle with Stuff Series – I call this one Decluttering for Life. It’s all about creating putting those decluttering habits on autopilot.

I’m excited to show you what I did to make decluttering and straightening my house a daily part of my routine. This process helps me identify the biggest “Clutter Problem Areas” for my house, what I would “ideally” see and what I’m going to do about it.

Read Post #1 Here

I hope that it will help you and help you start thinking about what you can do in your home in small snippets of time rather than waiting for a big chunk of time or feeling like you ‘wasted’ an entire Saturday or weekend just to have it fall back into disarray the moment your kids get home from school.

My Ah-a Moment for Creating Decluttering Habits

In the last post, my aha-moment was that decluttering is not a one-time event, it’s an everyday battle that requires specific decluttering habits to combat the on-going clash between all the things and the ideal view I have in my mind’s eye for each room in my house.

Now here’s the hard question: How can I make a habit of decluttering my life? Because it’s not just one act, it’s an everyday movement to keep stuff from taking over every inch of space. Part of my clutter is the everyday neglected chores. The laundry that piles up, the dirty dishes scattered after cooking a meal. All. the. legos.

I knew I needed to identify specific times and events that helped me take care of the ‘clutter problem areas’.

What To Do First

First, I started with the known – my schedule. And then I will figure out where the problem is and how to tackle it with clearly defined decluttering habits.

You can think about your schedule and the sequence your day follows. Make a list of the things you do every day starting when you wake up to leave the house then what you do when you return home.

My Schedule:

I go to work at 9:30 am every day. I get up with my kids at 6:30 every day, and the oldest two leave at 7:20 when the bus whisks them off to school. We get home at 4:30 after taking one of my friend’s kids home from daycare. From there it’s homework (which drags on forever) dinner prep, dinner, and then it’s time to get the little one to bed followed by the other two with some spare moments in between.

If you saw my Ideally Planned post a while ago – the day is rarely ideal. Maybe I need to declutter my day as well….But that’s a story for another time.

Do you feel like your days are also cluttered with ‘stuff’? Such as stuff to do, stuff to finish?

Here’s the Plan to Create Decluttering Habits:

Declutter Habit Key: Use snippets of time to keep areas organized, and doing specific tasks when other known events take place.

For instance: Dishes in the morning while the kids were making lunches. Sweeping while talking to mom on the phone. (Does anyone else do this? Just me?)

Nightly Decluttering Habit: Just before switching the light off in my office nook – look at my desk before turning out the light at night and taking a minute to put away the markers, throw away the scraps of unused paper, nestle all the pens back in their spot, plug in my iPad, set out my planner for the next morning, dump any dirty watercolor water. Generally, straighten before going to bed. That way, I wake up with a clean area – a place to work in the morning with fresh ideas. Rather than worrying about the mess from the day before.

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How to Start

To start ‘decluttering for life’ I collected a list of all the ‘problem’ areas in my house. (Scroll to the bottom of the post, my video walks you through the process.)

Make a list of all the problem areas in your house. If the ‘stuff’ has a place, then it needs to be straightened. If you put something away where it belongs, and it spills over the space, it either needs a different space or there’s too much stuff. So in that case, ask yourself “what can I pare down?”

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My big issues in my house:

  • Kid’s toys picked up and put away
  • Dishes in the dishwasher/sink cleared
  • Table cleared
  • Too Much Paper (school paperwork)
  • Laundry – specifically when laundry has to be re-washed several times or clean laundry piled up in my room
  • Master Closet
  • Surfaces cleared

You can also make a list of the big issues in your house. We might have some of the same issues. Whatever they are, you can use the worksheet to create a plan.

Second Step: Imagine – Give Yourself a Visual Reward for Your Hard Work

Imagine what you want to see. What is your ‘ideal’ view? What do you want to see when you look at a particular drawer? How do you envision your living area? Where are your kids’ toy’s stored? What feeling do you get when you see a clean space instead of a cluttered mess?

Third Step: Be Specific about Change

Considering that I do not have huge spans of time to dedicate to straightening or decluttering, I need to use triggers or certain times of the day or events to change my everyday actions.

Clutter Problem Area:

Piled Up Clean Laundry

Ideal:

Laundry sorted and put away when it comes out of the dryer instead of stacked against the wall in my bedroom.

Plan – Be Specific

Here’s how I break never-ending, always overwhelming laundry into specific tasks per day:

Do one batch of laundry per day. Start the batch at 6:45 am while the kiddos are eating breakfast. 8:00 am switch the laundry from washer to dryer. 9:15 am just before leaving for work, take the laundry out and put it away.

I’m a fan of anything that doesn’t create too much overwhelm and can be checked off on a day-to-day basis. In other words, laundry is a never-ending task, but telling myself that I’m required to only to do one batch per day gives me the freedom to do something else without the guilt AND bonus – I can check it off my to-do list! So instead of a chore that never ends, I’m done after one!

Set a Specific Time – a Switch in Mindset

Setting a specific time makes a HUGE difference in my mindset. The ideal is no longer arbitrary. There’s a means to accomplish the goal and I know what I must do every day to do it. Decluttering is a life skill and I plan on learning it so well I don’t realize I’m doing it.

Setting a specific time is something that I learned from a Skillshare class taught by Cynthia Koo – “How to Design Your 365 Day Challenge” – she also suggests writing the event you will do before or after your task. Just that simple step makes all the habit-creating difference in the world.

(By the way, look at her Instagram @wontoninamillion) she said she used the 365-day challenge to help build her business and post every day, which made her have to create new content for Instagram, which was a win-win.)

The Power of Habit

As Charles Duhigg suggested in his book “The Power of Habit” – we need to create a simple and obvious cue, implement it in our routine and receive a reward, and create a craving for that reward. I can’t tell you how satisfying it is to walk into my room and see no laundry piles. That in and of itself makes me do a little happy dance. Up until I came up with my trigger, doing this happy dance was far and few between, but it’s something I want.

So, let me ask you…when it comes to clutter, what do you want most to see when looking at your own clutter problem areas? What is your ‘dream view’ and subsequently what is your reward for dealing with clutter?

April Mid-Month Habit Check: Humility & Progress

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Mid-Month Habit Check Time!

It’s mid-month habit check time! Mid-month habit checks are where I groan and squirm uncomfortably because this is where I’m accountable for my actions for the month so far and give myself a chance to improve in the second half.  P.S. I still love my transparent habit tracker used in February & April!

First of all, let me tell you why I track habits because I didn’t for the longest time. I thought it was silly and time-consuming. But this spread in my journal has probably been the reason why I kept bullet journaling or planning for so long.

Note: Here’s a post showing you how to set up a habit tracker, and why I like to track habits.

Tracking your habits gives you power over yourself like nothing else I can explain. I don’t monitor a tremendous amount of habits. And sometimes I list a habit on the tracker to start reminding myself to think about doing it. I started reading habit books and found that what they said was true – you manage what you monitor. I can attest to that.

This month I tracked ten habits:

  • Patient Parenting
  • Scriptures
  • Prayers
  • Learning
  • Blog
  • Product
  • Productive
  • Clean Daily
  • Plan
  • Time Out
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Most of them I’m pretty good about doing. I give myself half points some days because I know I tried, but could be better. Patient parenting scored a lot of half-points where I’d be fine for most of the day, and then something would light my fuse, and I’d blow up or become angry.

This month, I also struggled with prayer & scriptures. I don’t know if you pray or similar, but it’s an act of humility. And I struggle with that. Lots of reasons why come to mind, and that is most definitely a post for another time. But sometimes realizing why we are struggling with something makes it easier to fix.

Mid-month habit time is an excellent time for me to do some introspection and assess what I’m prioritizing in my life or what is not a priority and what I should consider changing. I’m guessing if I show more humility and pray like I intend to do when I wrote my habit checks, my patient parenting score would go up.

Always Progressing

If I make an effort to do any of these ten things daily, I know I’m trying, I’m progressing. Never consider yourself a failure because you tried. Sure, there’s room for improvement, but it’s not a failure.

That’s why I post my mid-month habit checks, to remind myself that it’s ok as long as I’m trying. And to give me a chance for the rest of the month to increase my effort. Sometimes I realize I’ve focused on the wrong things. Other times I realize I put too much on my plate.

It’s a great time to evaluate and give yourself a chance to rejuvenate your focus. How does my mid-month habit check compare to yours? Do you see any patterns?

My Plan to Win the Daily Battle with Decluttering and Stuff #1

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My Plan to Win the Daily Battle with Decluttering and Stuff

I battle with stuff every day. The things that I have in my house and my life – all the minutia. All the stuff. Stuff from Target, stuff from Walmart, stuff from Costco…stuff we’ve had for years, just stuff. I wanted to figure out a way to deal with all the things, and manage it going forward.

Last year, I read Marie Kondo’s book – before she was on Netflix – and it spurred me to clean out my closets, drawers, kid’s toys, kitchen, I even roll my socks to this day… but evidently, I went wrong somewhere. I still have too much stuff for my 3-bedroom, 2 bath house. 3 kids and 2 adults have a lot of stuff.

Love of ‘Stuff’ at its Limit

Don’t get me wrong, I love my art supplies and notebooks, but I feel like I’ve hit the ceiling. A limit. And yet when I walk into a supply store, the intoxicating smell of bound paper, the crackle of a package of pens lure my senses into insisting that I need yet another item despite the lack of space in my house.

I read books on happiness, books on habits, books on decluttering my life, and yet, I still can’t find the answer to my problem.

The Answer

But today, I think I found the answer to my problem. I am not specific enough, and I don’t put decluttering or ‘finding joy’ in my things into regular practice. I read the advice and yet don’t carry through on most of it. 

Decluttering is not a one-time event. The once and done is a nice concept, but I know now that it’s not permanent. It’s a battle fought constantly. Clutter and stuff want to make my home it’s home, and the tiny humans living under my roof don’t help one bit. In fact, I created a planning spread ages ago with a similar idea, but never put it into regular practice.

Clutter Definition

Here’s where I need to define clutter. I define clutter as anything that habitually gets out of place OR an overabundance of things without a proper home or spills over into other locations. Some people might say it just gets messy, but the mess makes me feel cluttered, inside and out and I don’t know about you, but feeling disorganized on the inside makes me feel restless and ornery all day long.

I don’t want to continually feel like I need to get rid of stuff. If I can put a stopper on the intake, I still have to deal with the items we want to keep. Once I pare down the extra items in my house, I still have things that creep out of their designated places.

My aha moment – combining the advice from two sets of books and combining them into one: decluttering + habit creation = make decluttering a habit.

Working on a Solution

I’ve figured out the problem, and now I’ll go to work on creating a habit for daily decluttering. I’m excited to show you what I’m working on – and I’ll give you a sneak peek!

In the next decluttering post, I’ll step you through how to fill out the declutter habit plan printable.

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I’d love to know! What do you do to keep yourself ‘sane’ and deal with all the clutter and mess every day?

Ideally Planned: Year, Quarter, Month Week & Day – How To Create Your Own ‘Ideal’

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Ever since reading the 12-Week Year by Brian Morgan I think less in 12-month calendar time increments and more in quarters or months. I started questioning why I have to live off of someone else’s designated quarters. So I set up my own quarterly calendar. Ideally planned is what I call it. It fits me, and my life. I’ll give you a break down of my ‘ideal’, but my ideally planned life will not fit yours. Customize to your heart’s content.

My Year in Quarters

The future log in my planner happened to break it out perfectly by section:

Spring Quarter: February, March, & April

Summer Quarter: May, June, & July

Fall Quarter: August, September, & October

Winter Quarter: November, December, & January

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How It Worked Out

My kiddos go back to school the first week of August, so that month doesn’t really feel like summer. I never feel ready to start a new year right after December and the whole slew of holidays beginning the end of October through December, so that’s why I figured I’d align the quarters and start a new year in February. The Chinese do it, so I think I’m in the majority. To clarify – it’s not about being in the majority. It’s about making things fit the way I need them to fit into my life.

One thing led to another, and I created an ‘Ideal Year, Month, Week & Day.’ It was very eye-opening how much time I have, and how much time I…don’t have. If you want to set priorities, I highly recommend creating an ‘ideal’ plan. Start with your ideal day and work backward. Or start with your ‘ideal year’ (things you do during certain times of the year) and work forward.

Things I do in the different Quarters of the Year:

  • Spring: Refresh my house by cleaning, decluttering, setting goals, planning for family vacations
  • Summer: Family Vacation, Back to School Planning
  • Fall: Plan for next year’s calendar year, Recipe Revisions
  • Winter: Focus on What Matters

There’s something about the promise of blossoms and blooms that renews my energy and love for life. As I figure it out, I will add miscellaneous house cleaning tasks. But I haven’t gotten there, yet.

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Monthly Planning

If there were a weak link in my ideally planned spread, monthlies would be it. I love how planning out your ‘ideals’ shows you your weaknesses and what you can improve. To figure out my ideally planned month, first, I’ll start with a list of things to do every single month. Then break them down and assign them to specific days or weeks throughout the month.

For instance: on the last Sunday of the month, I back up photos, videos and do general digital upkeep on my files. New blog post out on Sundays & Thursdays, Newsletter 3rd Friday of each month. Plan for the next month when there are 2 full weeks left in the month. On the 1st of the month, I do an inventory of statistics.

A cleaning schedule breaks out nicely into monthly and weekly plans. From a financial standpoint indicate bill-pay days and paydays.

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Ideal Week Plans

Of course, these plans ebb and flow with life and may change from week to week. This is the reason why my plans are ‘ideal.’ Knowing where to focus my efforts for family or cleaning on any given day when I have a small slot of time to get all the things done.

The other day, I listened to a radio host breaking down the hours in the week. If there are 24 hours in a day x 7 days per week =168 hours per week, subtract 8 hours per day for sleeping (who gets that much sleep in a day on a regular basis?!), remove the hours at work (typically 40 hours) and you have 72 hours left. My goodness, that sounds like a lot left over.

It got me thinking about what occupies my time. In my case, I have three kiddos, and they require (and I intend to give) a lot of time. Self-care time (including showers and getting ready), dinner prep, travel time and a myriad of other things. So if I could block like items together (even more than I do, already), it’s possible to conserve precious hours and minutes.

What do you do on a particular day of the week? I find that I get more laundry done if I assign it to a specific day. I clean my bathroom regularly if I know it’s Wednesday.  Adding recurring events like my son’s scouts on Thursdays helps me to not over-plan that evening.

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Ideal Day Planning

This section was a HUGE eye-opener. I realized how much time I don’t have. So I have to choose what I want to do. Prioritize, prioritize, prioritize. If it’s not that important, reconsider. Time is a precious element every single day. Visually organizing my days, weeks, months, and years showed me just that. And emphasized how important it is to prioritize.

How to Make Your Own “Ideal” Plans

Not sure where to start? I recommend starting big and working down. Map out your year. Do you change batteries in your smoke detector in the Spring? When are your family vacations? Do you seem to always clean your house in the spring or hold garage sales when the weather turns nice? What about holiday shopping? Do you wish to have that all said and done by the end of October so you can enjoy the holiday season without the stress? Well, that’s a good thing to plan.

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Ideal Year Plans

Ideal Year: Recurring events or tasks throughout the Year – for me I broke it into quarters.

However, you might break it month-to-month. For instance, if you have kids, do you shop for school supplies in August or July?

Ideal Month Plans

What tasks do you need to do each month? Can you assign them to a particular week or a specific day? Make a list of all the things you do. Cleaning, bills, tasks. See where it all fits in. You can make a calendar view here or add a second section where you list the days numerically. 1st & 15th – paydays. 5th, mortgage due. Etc.

Do you have recurring events? Include those so you can plan around those items.

Ideal Week Plans

What days do you feel stretched too thin? Are you scheduling too heavy on those days? What can you prioritize? For instance: if you have dance and soccer on Tuesdays for your kids and you’re gone from the moment the kids get out of school to the second they go to bed, scheduling laundry on that day is probably not a good idea.

Do you have any other recurring tasks to do during the week? Figure out what those recurring items and pencil them in. Move them around until it makes sense. Ideally planned is another word for ‘makes sense in my life’. At least in my opinion.

Ideal Day

Now, this is where things get real. List the hours in a day and plan out the big things first. Sleep, work, commute. Then start adding the smaller items around those scheduled chunks of time. Dinner prep and eating dinner seem to take up a good part of the time.

After the smaller ‘have to’ tasks appear on your day, start prioritizing. It’s not about how much time you have, it’s about how much priority you give the things in your life. I wanted to schedule more time for developing my business but saw that I took away time from my kids. I know they are a high priority and had to make a choice. Kids won out. Efficiency just became more important than ever.

Need help getting things done? Set a time to do a certain task. And include it in your habit tracker.

Check out my list of Mid-Month Habit Check Posts Here – there are so many things in my life I’ve improved by keeping a habit tracker.

What gets measured, gets managed - Peter Drucker

Side note: I saw someone on Instagram who planned their ideal day and left nearly 4 hours to sleep every night. If that’s ideal to you, by all means, miss out on those precious zzz’s. But sleep is a huge part of my self-care regimen, so I schedule it out. I discovered when I scheduled my sleep, I made an effort to go to sleep then.

What is Ideally Planned – Really?

For me, ideally planned is not all about fantasy and the perfect life, it’s about the realities that we deal with regularly and how to map it out so life does not overwhelm us on any given day. Creating an ideally planned life allows you to map out your life on paper and show you where your strengths and weaknesses are. Any day life doesn’t overwhelm me, is an ideal day. You’ll have to define what ‘ideal’ means to you.